Celebrity Matchmaker Susan Trombetti Offers Tips To Affair-Proof Your Marriage

Celebrity matchmaker and relationship expert Susan Trombetti is teaching couples how to affair-proof their marriages.

Putting your marriage on auto-pilot without realizing it and forgetting what it’s like to date your spouse will widen the emotional and physical disconnects that erode the relationship, according to Trombetti, who as CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking has paired some of Hollywood’s biggest stars.

The key to affair-proofing a marriage, Trombetti says, is recognizing and addressing the warning signs before its too late.

“People don’t realize that there are three things that will drive your spouse away and into someone else’s arms,” Trombetti says. “You need to address these issues before that happens and stop coexisting.”

What causes a partner to stray?

Emotional Neglect and Lack of Appreciation: Taking a partner for granted, dismissing their feelings, and failing to express appreciation can leave them feeling unseen. Trombetti warns that partners who feel undervalued may seek validation elsewhere.

Lack of Physical and Emotional Intimacy: Beyond sex, a strong marriage requires flirting, shared jokes, and consistent effort to maintain the spark. When a relationship starts to feel like a chore, and physical affection disappears, it can create a sense of emotional detachment.

Constant Negativity and Unresolved Conflict: Persistent criticism, contempt, and unfulfilled promises create resentment over time. If a partner repeatedly voices a concern but nothing changes, frustration can push them away emotionally — and potentially, physically.

To bring back the spark, Trombetti encourages couples to reignite the excitement of dating — prioritizing quality time, open communication, and consistent affection. Recognizing and actively working on these relationship pitfalls can help couples move from coexisting to thriving together.