She’s been married three times, and engaged once more on top of that, so Jennifer Lopez is taking a new perspective on relationships these days. The 44-year-old has been dating Casper Smart since 2011, just months after she divorced Marc Anthony, but she doesn’t seem to be in any rush to walk down the aisle this time.
Still, in the new issue of InStyle, the American Idol judge admitted that she’s definitely a relationship girl. “Look, I don’t love being alone. I don’t,” she told the mag. “I can’t beat myself up for that. What I have to do is figure out why I don’t like it. Why am I not okay with being alone? And can I ever be okay facing that? In the past, love for me has always meant forever, and sure, you still nurse some of those fantasies, but I don’t try to force it anymore.”
Jennifer added that, after the several failed relationships, she doesn’t see marriage as the only ending in sight. “I hung onto my fairytale ideals for a long time,” she admitted. “But where I am now, what I’ve been through, there are no rules. There are just lots of ways it can turn out instead of just one. There are so many different kinds of happiness, not just the one you learned about when you were five years old.”
Luckily for Jen, Casper isn’t even 27-years-old yet, so he’s probably in no rush to tie the knot, either!